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Adoption Stereotypes That Need to Stop

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AdaptionAdoption is a sensitive subject for many that when talked about becomes a hot topic of debate. Is it a good thing to give up your child for adoption or not? Many people have this question in mind and start creating stereotypes about the birth and the adoptive parents. What they don’t realize is that these stereotypes don’t only affect the parents, but also the children involved. Here are the stereotypes that you may have heard before:

Stereotype #1 – Birth parents are selfish and irresponsible.

Adoption forums and agencies like noted that the act of adoption is an unselfish decision because it allows others who cannot bear a child become parents. Instead of letting the child live in hardship at an early age, they get a chance to live a better life. They won’t go hungry or be robbed of opportunities to study or pursue their hobbies.

Stereotype #2 – Love is deeper when you’re blood-related.

Love is unconditional, as the common saying goes. Many adoptive parents love their child as if they were their own. They provide food, clothing, shelter, and other basic needs out of love. Even if not related by blood, adoptive families build stronger bonds through the time they spend together.

Stereotype #3 – Open adoption means problem children.

Many believe that children who remain in contact with their birth parents become confused and rebel, thinking that they’re not loved and were cast away. The truth is with proper explanation, many adoptive children understand why their birth parents gave them life in a different family. In addition, choosing an open adoption allows children to get immediate answers related to their being. They know better about themselves and don’t have to force their adoptive parents to give answers.

The lack of knowledge about adoption can be problematic. It is a shortsighted point of view that should not be allowed to influence others.