Divorce can be devastating and stressful, particularly if the couple has children. Regardless of their age, kids may feel uncertain or angry at the thought of their parents splitting up. As a parent, you can make the divorce process and its effects less painful for them. With that said, it’s still possible to lend comfort – not frustration – to challenging situations like this.
Just tell the truth
Don’t sugarcoat the situation. Dishonesty will only cut off your kids’ chance to express themselves. Your kids deserve to know why both of you are getting a divorce. You may need to remind them that while parents sometimes don’t get along, that doesn’t mean you will stop loving each other. While being honest is not always easy, especially when you don’t have all the answers, it’s always right to tell them what they need to know so they won’t feel guilty.
This is not the time to do it alone. Look for a support group, get advice from divorce lawyers, or talk to others who have gone through this. Getting help yourself sets a good example for your kids on how to make a smooth and healthy adjustment to the divorce.
Listen and reassure
Support your kids by listening to their grievances. Always commit to listen to their feelings without getting defensive. Your responsibility is to eliminate fears, straighten confusions, and show your unconditional love and support.
Always put your kids first
During a divorce, interacting with your partner might be the last thing you want to do, but it’s important. Your kids need both of you. Work out custody arrangements with your divorce lawyer and always think about your kids’ interests in mind.
Divorce often spells disaster for a family. But if you and your former partner can communicate civilly for the benefit of your kids, both of you can continue to be a source of love and affection, even if you go on to have new families.